Everyone is Working on Something
Everyone is working on something.
This seems like a rather simple statement, but I’ve recently
tried to see this through my students’ eyes.
Let me explain.
Teachers and principals have many opportunities to watch and
even help kids take risks and learn something new. Like many schools, we have students who have
learning disabilities or who are learning how to speak English. Of course, we have students who are quick to
master a new concept, and we have students who struggle to learn new
concepts. Each of these students is taking
risks and pushing themselves farther than they had originally expected. Fortunately, we have supports in place to
help all of our students be successful.
I’m not convinced, however, that our students see all adults
as learners. There seems to be an
unwritten rule in schools that adults know the
answers. In fact, I would suggest that
same unwritten rule is shared in families.
Adults are wise. We know what’s
best. It’s easier to do what we say. Unfortunately, I think many students believe
the “road” to this wisdom to simply “growing up” rather than learning, hard
work, and effort.
Do adults take risks?
Do we share our frustration in appropriate ways? Do we ask for help when we need it? Do we even admit when we make mistakes or are
working to overcome an obstacle? All of
our students are asked to do these steps almost every day.
I’ve found over the years that modeling what we expect
others to do is one of the best teaching strategies. It sends a message to our learners that we
understand, we are working to become better, we are always trying, we are
persevering.
And so I need to model my efforts and frustrations...
I stutter. I am a
stutterer.
I’ve stuttered since I learned to talk. I don’t know why, and I wish I did not, but I
stutter. It’s embarrassing.
I was inspired to share this when I read a column in the Detroit Free Press about Cameron
Francek, a stutterer who is undertaking a remarkable project to face his
challenges. Please read it here.
My family knows I stutter.
My closest colleagues know I stutter.
Most people who listen closely to me recognize I stammer through words,
close my eyes at some phrases, and repeat some words in sentences. Until recently, I did not discuss it. Stuttering was a frustration for me, and I
can't control it. I chose not to
discuss stuttering because my only experiences were when people would make fun
of me. Now, I have learned to joke about
it, but I still have people mention it in unflattering ways. (Occasionally, people still make fun of it. Maybe
this is silly of me, but I prefer to be the one who initiates the conversation
or joke about my stuttering. My laughter
helps me cope.) Talking on the phone or even in public are no longer fears for
me, but I never quite know what’s going to come out of my mouth when I begin to
talk. I’ve been able to develop
strategies to overcome stuttering, and I can’t think of a time that it’s held
me back. I reach out to speech
therapists, but it’s usually an offer to talk with any of our students or their
parents who may be stutterers. Sometimes
I share with a child or their family that I stutter. Usually this student is struggling to improve
their learning or their behavior. I try
to keep my stuttering private, but I’ve learned to use it as a “tool” to help
others know that I am persevering. I am
working on something… Everyone is
working on something.
Enough about me. I
did not begin this blog or this entry to write about me, and I don’t plan to
change how I share my stutter at school.
Rather, I wonder what our students would think about learning, pushing
themselves, and persevering, if the adults in their lives actively articulated
how they push themselves and how they
are learning? Are adults sharing how
they pick themselves up and persevere? I’m
not saying we need to recount every mistake we ever made and preach about
effort. Instead, I believe it’s important
to share out loud how you are working to overcome being late or
procrastinating. It’s OK to discuss how
you are tackling a project or how to learn a new computer program at work. It’s OK to share how you are learning.
So, take a risk.
Share your journey. Let your kids
know that the “road” to wisdom is paved with mistakes and effort. Let them know your “adult” wisdom did not happen
by accident. You are wise because you
have and you are working…working on
something.
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